Amazon link This book, a follow-up from the author of So You Want To Talk About Race, is exactly what the subtitle describes: “How Everyday People Are Fighting Oppression and Changing the World – and How You Can, Too”. While the book was well-written and easy to read, Oluo challenged me with stories that showed […]
Category: coaching
Announcing my new book!
I have written a book, titled You Have A Choice: Beyond Hard Work to Meaningful Impact, which is now available on Amazon and on Bookshop. You can also ask your local bookstore to order it through the Ingram catalog. I was so excited when I first held in my hands a book that I had […]
Tips for job seekers to stand out and get hired
I’ve shared the same advice with several job seekers recently, pulling together a number of LinkedIn posts to provide my thoughts on job hunting, so I am publishing those thoughts more broadly in case it’s helpful to you or somebody you know. The main principle I offer is that people don’t hire you because you […]
Organizational Cognition Revisited
[n.b. This post got completely out of control (2200 words!) as I tied together way too many ideas with too little explanation as I relied on heavy hyperlinking. Skip to the end for a couple actionable takeaways.] I recently read Jeff Hawkins’s book A Thousand Brains after Ben Thompson referenced it in a Stratechery update […]
Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, by Terrence Real
Amazon link There is a path toward us, toward integration, connection, wholeness. And there is a path toward you and me, trauma, scarcity, selfishness. Choose connection. This book centers around a simple idea. When we were children, we adapted to our environment to get our emotional needs met. We used our parents as role models, […]
Practicing Celebration
Celebration is really hard for me. I used to feel that celebration is only for achieving something you didn’t expect to achieve, but after I’ve done something, I was clearly expected to have done it, so what is there to celebrate? Instead, I historically have pushed on to the next challenge. Yet researchers like BJ […]
Generous Selling
I regularly talk to new coaches to share my experience, because I believe that the world benefits from more people with a coaching mindset, and as a way to pay it forward for the coaches that advised me when I transitioned into coaching. These new coaches often ask me about my sales process, and since […]
Getting unstuck in your life and career
[11/20/22: Thanks for the feedback! The current version is in this Google doc, so please comment there moving forward] [11/9/22: This is a rough draft of what I hope will be the first chapter of the book I am writing. A lot of this material will be familiar to long-time blog readers, and I’ve linked […]
The New Psychology of Leadership, by Haslam, Reicher and Platow
Amazon link Reading this book articulated concepts that changed how I view and talk about leadership. The authors start the book by debunking several conventional theories of leadership (e.g. the “Great Man” theory where it’s about the leader’s innate qualities, or a transactional or power approach where people follow leaders in exchange for something) and […]
Leading Systems, by Barry Oshry
Amazon link In 1969, Barry Oshry decided to run a simulation on institutional racism called “the Society of New Hope” so that people could take on different roles in society and see how that unfolded. To his surprise, it quickly spun out of his control, as the “Have Not”s disabled the cars in the parking […]
