Amazon link I really enjoyed Daniel Coyle’s book The Talent Code, so when I saw he had written a follow-up book on organizational culture, I picked it up from the library. Subtitled “The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups”, Coyle investigates successful groups from the Navy SEALs to the San Antonio Spurs to a band of […]
2017 Year in Review
Let’s call this the Year of New Beginnings. I went into 2017 with two priorities: 1) to deepen my relationship 2) to deepen my practice of coaching Those priorities helped me stay focused on what was important to me in 2017, despite many competing obligations. 1) I met Tanya in November 2016, and we clicked […]
What will you do differently?
As I have been doing more coaching over the last year, I have been seeing how some people tend to employ magical thinking. They believe that if they just think of what they want, then somehow it will magically happen. This is influenced by books like The Secret, which tout that visualizing what you want […]
Government, society, and the tax bill
I got into a political debate on the tax bill today on Facebook, which I normally don’t do. But I was able to articulate some of why I’m so outraged by the tax bill and some of the thinking behind it, so I thought I’d share an edited version here. The debate was instigated by […]
Flip your default
A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to fly away for a long weekend on a day’s notice (e.g. booking a cheap flight on Thursday to leave Friday morning). My immediate reaction was “I can’t do that! I have all these things I have to do! That’s crazy! It’s irresponsible!” So I decided not […]
What do you control?
After finding your way, how do you start moving towards your vision for yourself? I’ve been thinking a lot about that question, as people to whom I’m giving career advice say “I have this grand vision for myself, but I don’t know where to start.” The first step is to figure out what is in […]
Why don’t we change?
In my last post, I talked about how journaling helps you to discover patterns in yourself, and see what you’re actually doing as opposed to what you mean to be doing. In coaching, we call this gap between plans and action a breakdown, and a large part of coaching is how to deal with client […]
The Power of Journaling
I have become a fierce advocate of journaling over the past year, and keep recommending it to people, so, as is my habit, I’m now turning my thoughts into a blog post to make them easier to reference. I first got interested in journaling ten years ago after reading Becoming a Technical Leader, by Gerald […]
Finding your way
My last post talked about the exploration phase of figuring out what options are available vs. the selection phase when you choose what you’re going to do next. I mentioned the importance of paying attention in the exploration phase, to “be more critical in trying to tease apart the common patterns that make one option […]
Vulnerability as filtering
I’ve shared an idea several times recently, and people have been finding it useful, so I’m writing it up for the blog to make it easier to reference in the future. Let’s imagine that you’re in a situation where you are looking for a job. You have some ideas of what you want, but you’re […]
