Once or twice a year, somebody posts to the biking list I follow asking how one learns to do long climbs such as Page Mill Road, the 2,000 foot vertical climb up to Skyline Blvd. And they are always disappointed to hear the answer is “You just do it.” There isn’t a secret or a […]
Category: selfdesign
So Good They Can’t Ignore You, by Cal Newport
Amazon link “Follow your passion!” is common career advice. Cal Newport thinks that is a terrible idea, and explains why in this book. He observes that following your passion will not succeed as a career move unless you have something that will differentiate you from everybody else following their passion. As he puts it, The […]
Leadership and Self-Deception, by The Arbinger Institute
Amazon link Book site A friend loaned me this book after it was recommended to them by their manager, and I think it’s a great resource for illustrating how we contribute to the negative relationships in our lives. It’s a fictionalized story of how a business executive and father is coached into seeing how his […]
What’s not on the menu?
I was at a workshop a couple weeks ago, and there was an organized dinner one evening where we went to a restaurant and ordered off a pre-planned fixed menu. While chatting before ordering, a couple locals mentioned that the restaurant was known for its mac’n’cheese, which was not on the fixed menu. So when […]
Ways of responding
My friend and I were talking about how to respond to events like the election or other adverse events in life where you don’t get what you want. She suggested that there were a few categories of responses, which we labeled as follows: Helpless: Shrug your shoulders and say “That’s just the way the world […]
Turning the page
I haven’t posted since the US election, as it didn’t feel right to engage with the abstract self-design questions I’ve been pondering without acknowledging the change in the world that I live in. Trump’s election was a shock to me. I saw the possibility (even 538’s models had him at a 1-in-3 chance on election […]
Camp Calm and meditation
I’ve been curious about meditation for years, but could never find a way to get started. It seemed both too easy (“I just sit there?”) and too intimidating (“empty my mind? become one with the universe?”). Earlier this year, my therapist recommended meditation to help address a challenge I was facing. I tried the Headspace […]
Thinking like a Futurist with Jane McGonigal
[n.b. I added a MailChimp subscription link to the sidebar if you want to get email notifications of posts rather than depending on RSS, Facebook or Twitter to see when I update] I’ve been a fan of Jane McGonigal for a decade, after being introduced to her via her Cruel 2 B Kind game in […]
Choosing Utility over Truth
I have previously discussed on this blog my skepticism about the existence of a single Truth. I’ve been reminded of that in several recent conversations, so I thought I’d revisit that idea again. The most recent example was a conversation on Facebook where a friend linked to a debunking of learning styles, showing that students […]
Design thinking for the self
As you can probably tell from recent posts on gratitude, generosity, and choosing action, I have been thinking a lot about the kind of person I want to be recently. This is partly inspired by me co-leading a session at Up to All of Us on how to change the world by first changing yourself. […]
