In the first weekend of my coaching class, they discussed three meta-narratives that permeate Western society, and yet are toxic and corrosive. They were: Performativity: something has value only if it can measurably achieve a desired result The Inner Critic: the feeling that “there’s something deeply wrong with me”, which I’ve mentioned a couple times […]
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Small steps lead to big change
Continuing along the theme of the doubt tax, I’ve talked with several people over the past year who are looking for the secret to effectively change their lives. One example is people who want to change careers, and are looking for the secret to writing the right resume or learning the interview secrets that will […]
What problem is your product solving?
I’ve given the same advice to a few different people over the past year, which generally means it’s time for me to write up that advice as a blog post. In this case, what I have been telling entrepreneurs is that they don’t have a business until they are addressing a problem that people will […]
Personal Operating System
Building on my post yesterday about deliberate practice, I’ve been using a technique over the past year to practice certain behaviors, which is called a “personal operating system”. I learned of this technique from Maria Andersen last year, and she later wrote it up as a blog post. The idea is to come up with […]
Peak, by Anders Ericsson
Amazon link Deliberate practice is an ongoing theme for me these days, as that growth mindset drives much of my belief in my ability to improve at things I used to think were genetic and unchangeable. Deliberate practice is mentioned in several books I have read, like The Talent Code and So Good They Can’t […]
The doubt tax
Once or twice a year, somebody posts to the biking list I follow asking how one learns to do long climbs such as Page Mill Road, the 2,000 foot vertical climb up to Skyline Blvd. And they are always disappointed to hear the answer is “You just do it.” There isn’t a secret or a […]
Leadership and Self-Deception, by The Arbinger Institute
Amazon link Book site A friend loaned me this book after it was recommended to them by their manager, and I think it’s a great resource for illustrating how we contribute to the negative relationships in our lives. It’s a fictionalized story of how a business executive and father is coached into seeing how his […]
Ways of responding
My friend and I were talking about how to respond to events like the election or other adverse events in life where you don’t get what you want. She suggested that there were a few categories of responses, which we labeled as follows: Helpless: Shrug your shoulders and say “That’s just the way the world […]
Choosing Utility over Truth
I have previously discussed on this blog my skepticism about the existence of a single Truth. I’ve been reminded of that in several recent conversations, so I thought I’d revisit that idea again. The most recent example was a conversation on Facebook where a friend linked to a debunking of learning styles, showing that students […]
