{"id":959,"date":"2008-12-18T20:16:58","date_gmt":"2008-12-19T04:16:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nehrlich.com\/blog\/?p=959"},"modified":"2008-12-18T20:18:57","modified_gmt":"2008-12-19T04:18:57","slug":"buying-pants","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nehrlich.com\/blog\/2008\/12\/18\/buying-pants\/","title":{"rendered":"Buying pants"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[Ed: We take a detour from our normal posts about cognition and management to talk about pants.  Feel free to skip this post.  Really.  Just go on your way.  It&#8217;s a waste of your time anyway.  I&#8217;m just working out some clothing issues in public.]<\/p>\n<p>I <a href=http:\/\/twitter.com\/generalist\/status\/1053987490>recently posted on Twitter<\/a>, which then <a href=http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/profile.php?id=710047&#038;v=feed&#038;story_fbid=39651463540>posted as my Facebook status message<\/a>, about my attempt to convince myself that I should spent ~$200 on <a href=http:\/\/outlier.cc\/outlier_garments\/outlier_pants\/>these bike\/dress pants<\/a>.  Something like 10 people commented on these pants, which is kind of bizarre in and of itself, and most of the comments were something like &#8220;Duh, of course you should get the pants &#8211; they&#8217;re nice, you can afford them, what&#8217;s the problem?&#8221;  So this got me thinking about my reticent attitude towards clothing.  <\/p>\n<p>Part of it is that, yes, I&#8217;m an adult, and I <em>could<\/em> buy the pants, but at the same time, as an adult, I have to balance my wants with other longer-term wants and run an implicit cost-benefit analysis between dropping $200 on pants today and saving up for a down payment on a house.  Admittedly, I think I weight myself too heavily towards the long-term, and almost never buy anything for myself (except books) (and I&#8217;m trying to cut back there by using this remarkable place called the library that brings me books for FREE!).  So it&#8217;s hard to say.<\/p>\n<p>I also have a hard time convincing myself to spend money on clothes in general.  I&#8217;ve never been particularly interested in looking good, although I make abortive attempts occasionally.  Mostly I make one trip a year to Macy&#8217;s, or in the last couple years, make one order on L.L. Bean, buy a couple pairs of slacks and shirts, and I&#8217;m good.  So the idea of spending $200 on a single pair of pants is kind of horrifying to me as that&#8217;s typically what I spend on clothes in a year. <\/p>\n<p>Interestingly, I&#8217;m willing to spend that kind of money on shoes.  I wear shoes every day, and finding comfortable, durable shoes is worth it to me.  I love my Ecco boots &#8211; I <a href=http:\/\/www.nehrlich.com\/blog\/2006\/10\/21\/customer-service\/>bought them two years ago<\/a> and they&#8217;re holding up just fine despite daily wear and tear (my previous pair of boots lasted four years).  I bought a new pair of Ecco dress shoes this summer that I expect to last me ten years.  <\/p>\n<p>But clothes aren&#8217;t the same way.  Part of the reason is that clothes wear out.  I at least have finally gotten in the habit of throwing out clothes with holes in them &#8211; I had a conversation a few years ago with a friend who asked me whether I owned any t-shirts without holes in them, so this is a bigger step than you might think.  I actually paid for new t-shirts (*gasp*) which horrified the thrifty anti-appearance troll within me.  <\/p>\n<p>Part of the reason is I&#8217;m just bad at buying clothes.  I&#8217;ve occasionally bought myself shirts and slacks that just don&#8217;t work on me for one reason or another, and that money just went to waste.  Those just sit on my hangers making me feel stupid &#8211; moving back from New York was my excuse to give a bunch of those to Goodwill.  <\/p>\n<p>The couple times I&#8217;ve gone shopping with friends definitely helped, as they forced me to try on lots of outfits to find out what worked for me.  That helped me realize that a significant portion of getting clothes that look good is finding clothes that actually fit.  It wasn&#8217;t a magical process, there was no secret &#8211; it was simply spending several hours trying on things, and seeing what looked good.  I still don&#8217;t like the process, and am mostly standard sized enough that I can order things over the web, but I at least understand that I could look nicer if I put in the time.  <\/p>\n<p>Which raises another underlying tension &#8211; I&#8217;m uncomfortable with trying to improve my physical appearance.  I&#8217;ve always identified myself as &#8220;smart&#8221;, and to some extent, it feels like trying to also look good would dilute my focus.  In other words, I present it to myself as <a href=http:\/\/www.nehrlich.com\/blog\/2003\/12\/06\/language-in-thought-and-action-by-si-hayakawa\/>a bi-valued choice<\/a>, and feel like I can only pick one &#8211; looking good is explicitly not part of my identity, so I choose not to pursue it.  Which is stupid, I know, but there you go.  <\/p>\n<p>Anyway, it&#8217;s interesting to me that I started thinking about all these topics as the result of an innocent twitter about pants, so I thought I would share.  I&#8217;m most of the way towards convincing myself these pants would be durable and look good and I could wear them regularly for years, which would be enough to get me to buy them next week some time.  Of course, they&#8217;ve added more pants choices since I first looked, which is just making the choice harder as I can&#8217;t decide which color or which material to get.  Damn you, paradox of choice!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>[Ed: We take a detour from our normal posts about cognition and management to talk about pants. Feel free to skip this post. Really. Just go on your way. It&#8217;s a waste of your time anyway. 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